How to use ChatGPT to improve your dating profile — 7 prompts to try now

1. Refining your bio

Ah, the dreaded bio section. You’ve known yourself your entire life, yet you’re now struggling to fit your own story into the tiny blank box staring at you. Its contents will 100% be judged by those swiping on your profile. And the direction of that swipe likely boils down to how well you pull this section off. No pressure.

The former Bumble executive and Harvard alumn Cohen-Aslatei said giving ChatGPT a random bio while asking it to make it sound more like you won’t work. Instead, he suggests asking a friend or family member to describe you. Then package what they say into a bio and ask ChatGPT to refine it.

Try this prompt: My friends describe me as [quality 1], [quality 2], and [quality 3]. Create a bio that I can use for my Tinder profile.

2. Finding your USP

With dating apps creating the illusion of unlimited possibilities, you need to put in a bit of extra work to stand out from the crowd.

Cohen-Aslatei suggests writing something about a memorable trip you went on or an exciting experience you had in your profile.

“Or if it's difficult for you to think about those experiences, tell me something a little bit more generic. Tell me your favorite room in the house and why,” Cohen-Aslatei said.

This one would work best through a voice conversation with ChatGPT, but the basic prompt remains the same: Ask me questions about my life that will help me describe some memorable trips or experiences I’ve had. Then help me summarize my experience for one of my Bumble prompts.

3. Photo suggestions

“No woman wants to see a bathroom selfie of a straight guy. It's just not attractive,” Cohen-Aslatei said. He suggested asking a friend to take a photo of you sitting on a beach or doing something you’re passionate about.

Uploading clear and engaging photos could even replace having to spell out all your hobbies and interests. If you enjoy cooking, why not post a photo of you creating an elaborate dish?

As my journalism professors would remind me: show, don’t tell.

To help you narrow down what photos you can add to your profile, ask ChatGPT: Based on what you know about me, what are some ideas for photos that reflect my personality and interests that would work well for my dating profile?

4. Changing the rules

Cohen-Aslatei believes dating apps have a lot of shortcomings, one of them being the type of prompts they suggest.

“When they give you prompts, they also say: In 40 characters or less, tell us about you. We don't know how to write that way, so we're not usually very succinct,” he said.

This is where you can ask ChatGPT to help you change the rules of the game a bit. Get some help from AI and get it to come up with questions you can answer in a way that goes beyond surface-level details. Many of us like to travel and enjoy good food, but what makes us tick?

Try out a prompt like: Ask me 3 unique and very specific questions about different aspects of my life. Then help me craft the answers to match my Hinge profile while still maintaining my voice.

5. Understanding your goals and ambitions

“We don't need to necessarily date someone who's extremely wealthy, but a lot of especially women are looking for the signal of ambition,” Cohen-Aslatei said. “You might be 24 and still be in school, but if you can signal to me that you're a hustler, an entrepreneur, and that you have a potential to earn money and be ambitious, that is attractive to most women”.

The main principle still stands regardless of who you’re attracted to. But sometimes we may find it hard to articulate in a clear way what our goals and ambitions actually are. Knowing more about what you truly cherish can help you make sure all parts of your profile reflect that.

A prompt you can use is: Help me craft a Q&A for my profile that helps people swiping on it to understand my values, goals, and life ambitions.

6. Sounding authentic

If you lean too heavily on ChatGPT, you’ll risk losing your voice. Craft smarter prompts and fine-tune the answers to stay authentic.

“You do not want to sound generic, and unfortunately, many times these AI assistants can make you sound generic. No one's clicking on you, sharing you, swiping on you, if you sound like you are a generic human,” Cohen-Aslatei explained.

A safe way to ensure your profile reflects the real you is by having a friend review it. If they’re all busy, you can ask ChatGPT to critique it for you. Upload any portions of your profile you’re unsure about and ask: Based on my values and ambitions, critique my dating profile sections and highlight any potential mismatch between who I am and who I say I am.

7. Tailoring your profile for the right audience

If you're on more than one app, a line you included in one of your profiles may not necessarily work as well for the others. This partly boils down to how the apps are designed and what daters use them for.

Cohen-Aslatei said each dating app has a different use case. Some of them are for something more casual, while others favor long-term commitments.

If you have a part of an existing bio that you'd like to transfer from one app to the next, insert it in ChatGPT and explain where you'd like to use it next.

You can also use the prompt: I've used this line in one of my online dating profiles, can you please reword it so that I can use a similar version tailored to [insert the name of the new dating app here].