Motherboard Help for C2D, 4-4-4 RAM, watercooling

OK, I need some help. I have built several computers before and have supported hardware for several years, but have never messed with overclocking or watercooling.

I have everything I need to build a new rig, except a motherboard (well, I have the free piece of crap from frys that came with the CPU...). I bought some high end RAM from frys that was cheaper than the cheap stuff after rebate, but it has 4-4-4-15 timings. I was looking at the P965 chipset motherboards on newegg, but they all have this disclaimer:

"Notice: Only DDR2-800 memory supporting JEDEC approved 1.8V operation with timings of 5-5-5 or 6-6-6 is supported on Intel Desktop Boards based on Intel 965 Express Chipsets."

Does this mean I cannot use my fancy new RAM with any P965 board? I know I can change some stuff in the BIOS, but I don't want to mess with it if I can't get it to be as fast as it is capable of. If I can't use P965, does anyone have a good recommendation on a board that I could use? SLI would be nice, but I will probably replace the board and video card eventually when the DX10 cards get cheaper, so that is not a must. I just need it to work with the stuff listed below, and play nice with overclocking.

The stuff I have so far is:

RAM: 2GB DDR2 PC2-6400 800MHz CL 4-4-4-15 / Platinum / Revision 2 / Mirrored XTC Heatspreader Dual Channel Kit OCZ2P800R22GK
CPU: C2D E6300 (maybe a better one soon)
Video: EVGA 7900 GS (bought a cheap one until DX10 cards come down in price)
HDD: WD Raptor 150GB (or whatever the size is close to that)
Case: Koolance PC3-724BK (I think)
PS: 650W (overkill, but it was cheap and is nice)
and all the other various stuff I need for watercooling, cabling, optical drives, etc.

This rig is going to be for gaming/multimedia only. I am tired of playing games with the economy settings or watching divx files and not being able to IM at the same time. I have another few computers, one with 1.6TB in RAID 5 (1.2 useable) for downloading and storage, so very little will ever go on the computer that is not a game or multimedia file. As I said, I do not have much practical experience with overclocking, so feel free to correct any bad assumptionst that I made. Thanks!

So that means that the 965 boards will support the RAM with the 4-4-4 timings if I change the BIOS?