it really depends on your budget but these are some of my favorites thus far (with comfort in mind):
< $100 USD => Steelseries Siberia V2:
http://www.headset-ratings.com/steelseries-siberia-v2-h...
$150-$200 => ATH-M50 or AD700:
http://www.headset-ratings.com/audio-technica-ath-m50-p...
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E168...
+$300 => Beyerdynamic MMX 300:
http://www.headset-ratings.com/beyerdynamic-mmx-300-pc-...
lol at the ear rugburn..that's gotta be rough. these should not give you any of that at all haha. now, not all of these have surround sound, but let me tell you man - a good stereo model can, and often will, shart all over 'gaming varieties'. gamers are way too quick to dismiss stereo cans and look only for gaming headsets, which is a shame since 'gaming' models use gimmicky stuff.
a stereo headset with a really balanced soundstage / good build will do wonders. all im saying is you really want a hi-fi headset, you need to check out stereo models.
also the AD700 is prob gonna be the most comfortable of the lot. the earcups are like dinner plates lol. its awesome
Good luck and happy listening